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5) Annoying friend Krazy

I'm drifting apart from/getting annoyed with/losing interest in one of my mates. I thought she was a good m8 till bout two weeks ago. She is so fake sometimes, she sort of changes her personality to go wit whoever she hangs out wit (rite now she’s wit a group that basically diet like hell, and smoke and get drunk).

Last year, she was quiet because her friend was quiet, the year before she was a bully, now she talks behind people's back-she can't stick with people either. So I'm sick of her. I want to tell her to go away kindly. Reply

re:  Annoying friend Cookie

I know too many people like that, unfortunately. Thing is, that lots of them are very nice, but unfortunately very gullible and easily lead people. You can't control them, and you can't influence their decisions or their friends you can only go so far trying to make sure they're hanging around with the 'right' people. 

I think everyone is like that to a point though. I mean, however much you try to be your self, you get influenced by the people around you. This can be in accent (try hanging around with Americans or Australians for a few days to illustrate this), and in the way that we act. If you’re with someone quiet, then it can be very tiring to keep the conversation going, and when you’re with someone very chatty, then you need to interrupt and shout to get a word in edgeways.

I don't think you should necessarily push her away, but just don't encourage her. It sounds like you're a pretty stable person, and spending some time with you might do her good. Try to explain to her that you want to see the real her, and not a person that's influenced by other people too much. Encourage her to be her own person, and make her own decisions. Reply

re:  Annoying friend Hannah 

Wow you're such a great agony aunt!! I had the same problem and you have solved it for me too!! thanks a lot! Reply

re: Annoying friend Krazy

I know, I know, but I hate feeling like I've been used, especially because we were meant to be good friends. Yeah, we get influenced by people, but its like she goes to the point of deserting her own life for them. And like, I'm sick of her phoning really late going on but how drunk she feels and how she’s done this and that... she is seriously going to get hurt someday, only she’s too stupid to notice, and I've got a bit of a reputation for being a goody goody; I don’t think she’d bother listening to me.

Besides, we don’t know what to say to each other anymore because we’ve become so estranged. Truthfully, I'm kind of sick of her, I can’t be bothered if she’s so reckless. Reply

re:  Annoying friend Cookie

I can see where you’re coming from. It may seem mean, and I know that you may not want to hurt her feelings, but telling her how you feel may help.

I can understand how you want to keep your home and school life a bit more separate, and try to explain this to her. Reply

re: Annoying friend Krazy

Hmm...You're good.. thanks! Reply

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