At school today I hadn't got a partner for tennis, so the teacher said I would have to be in a three. I asked my so called friends if I could be in a three with them, one told me to leave them alone and just do the warm-up, another said to go with my other friends, I ask them and one says can't I just find another partner, the other nothing at all. Then one of them asks me to get the ball for them and I refused after I just stood there all lesson doing the warm up, they even saw me on my own and I'm the one who gets called selfish!

Now I know who my friends are and I've got no real ones in my tutor group. I have one, but they split us up in year six and now we are in senior school they put us in different sides of the year group and don't have any lessons together. Reply

re:  Friends wow me 

luv ya! Emma Reply

re:  Friends Snowy

In P.E me and my two mates always have to go in a 3.....but it's OK because the teacher lets us.

But just to show them, next time one of them is ill or not there and the other asks to be with you...you can say "No, because when I needed to go with, you said no... so you shouldn't I say that to you?!"...or you could say..."Yeah, ok... I let my friends come as partners with me...unlike some people!"

Ok, ok I know I'm not much help! :)

Luv Snowy Reply

re:  Friends bookworm 

You have a point that's the two things I came up with after all what people give is what they have to expect back. Reply

re:  Friends Snowy

Cool! Reply

re:  Friends HOST - Charlie

Going to a new school is tough, and settling in can be very hard for some people. Make sure you keep contact with your old best mate, but get on with making new ones too, because I'm sure she will be trying to too. 

Try joining a school club: a computer club or technology club, a sports team, an art group, photography... anything you're interested in. It's a great way to meet new people within school. I don't think I'd know half the people I know if it wasn't for athletics, netball and all my music things! If you are really upset then talk to your Head of year. In extreme circumstances then some schools will allow students to transfer tutor groups if they're not settling in.  Reply

re:  Friends bookworm 

Thanks for the advice, I have joined drama club, my mom keeps telling me to talk to my tutor about it, but then I'm worried that I'll be making a big deal out of nothing. The thing is at school I can't do anything right, if I do anything for a joke they give me funny looks or say the joke was over 10 seconds ago. There's a girl who's not in my tutor group, but annoys me she gives me dirty looks all the time and before we were all sitting on the stage and I sat by her and she said errrrrrrr, I don't want to sit by you! 

The other day in P.E. there was a dirty flat ballet shoe in the changing room and she asked if it was mine and she had a smirk on her face as she said it, then she said oh I thought you did ballet, liar! Then she kept going you do ballet, you do ballet! When she is like that constantly I think she doesn't like me, but according to her it's just me taking things seriously.

The boys in my group are a pain in the neck, they keep saying stuff to me and teasing me. Maybe I should speak to my tutor. 

Also one girl I thought was my friend saw me walking towards her and the friend I was split up from and started muttering go away under her breath. I don't what I've done to her! Reply

There's nothing wrong with ballet! One of my closet friends went to a dance school to study ballet, and she is amazing. There is nothing to be ashamed of. She is clever and beautiful, and ballet dancers are very disciplined and careful. Also, some prima ballerinas make a lot of money, so tell her not to down-tread dancers, even if you aren't one!

If you don't know what you've done, why not just ask her? What harm can it do, I mean, from the way it sounds at the moment it can't get much worse, can it?

I would have a word with your tutor or your favourite teacher. You can't make people like you, but you can stop them from being horrible to you.

Good luck, and I hope things get better for you. I promise you, you will settle in with time. Reply

re:  Friends bookworm 

Ballerinas are talented people, I ought to have told her that. It's just that how horribly worn out and dirty the shoe was. Thank you for your help.

re:  Friends Cookie  

You're welcome! Reply

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