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9) ADVICE Chow
My BIOLOGICAL father, (not my Daddy), who is the worst ever and doesn't deserve to be called a father is dying of a brain tumour. I don't feel any remorse, I only sympathise with him as a stranger. There is a reason that I hate him: It's partly because he didn't care about me, but also because of other things that I'd rather not say. If he requests me to, do you think I should visit him? Reply
re: ADVICE Host - Charlie
Well, it's your choice if you want to go to see him. When people are ill then it makes you sympathise with them, but in your case it might make him open up to you a bit more. I spent a lot of time with my Grandmother when she was dying in hospital, but now that's the only picture I get of her - of her sick in bed. Because of this when my Grandfather was in a car accident I didn't go to see him, and although I didn't get to say goodbye, I don't regret this, because I can remember him for what he was like the rest of the time, not as an invalid.
It's your choice. It depends whether you want to talk to him about what your feeling, or whether you want to remember him the way that you've thought of him in the past. And whether or not you want to get the chance to say goodbye. Reply
re: ADVICE Chow
That's
really good advice, but I don't know if I want to go. If I do decide to, it'll
be for him (even though he doesn't deserve it), and I won't go all smiley or
weepy, I'll just sit there all angry.
re: ADVICE Cookie
Good luck, honey. Let us know how it turns out. I'm here if you want to talk, OK? Reply
