There was this girl in my class for year 7 and a bit of year 8, but she moved, now in almost at the end of year 9, she's back, :'(

She turned my friends against me, she bullied me physically and emotionally, she spread rumours about me, and did some other things that are to nasty to even think about. And what did I do to deserve this? Absolutely nothing, I am so nice to everyone, I did nothing to her. She made my life a living hell, she is one of the most childish, snobby, petty, annoying ****. She put me though so much **** in the first few years, then I just told her to shove it. But no, she's back, and joy of joys, she's in my tutor form.

I've just got to ignore her, and hope she ignores me too. But at least no one is talking to her, she doesn't exactly have many friends from the way she acts. But I just can't stand her! Sorry for this moan, it's just I’m bored, and annoyed. Reply

Well, put it this way, it sounds like you're a lot more popular than she is at the moment, so if she gives you any problems then you'll have the advantage. Also, it sounds like she's pretty messed up, after all, she's been completely up-rooted, then dumped back and left to pick up the pieces of her old life in the space of three years, so think what she must be going through. Stand in her shoes for a minute, and you wonder why she doesn't know how to treat other people.  

I know she's given you a hard time, but it might be time to put it behind you. I mean, you're both older and more sensible and mature now, and it sounds like you lot are all ganging up on her and giving her a hard time. When you go back to school, surprise people. Be the one to make the first move, and go and be nice to her. It sounds like she's been through quite a lot in the past few months, and what she really needs is a friend.

You don't have to do the expected, and you shouldn't follow the crowd. If you lot are all giving her the cold shoulder, is that really any better than what she did to you? It's still bullying, and excluding her will make her bitterer. You can put the past behind you if you try. You wouldn't do that if it were any other new girl, would you, so why treat her any differently?

Truth is, she might think she knows the school well, but really, she won’t have a clue any more. Sure, she may know her way around, but hierarchies will have changed since she left.

Prove this to her: break the chain. If you don't patch up your differences then you'll just continue being spiteful towards each other, and I'm sure that's not what's best for either of you! Reply

Hi, I understand were your coming from. Being even nastier to her is just proving my immaturity, I guess.

But, I will try to understand what it's like for her, even though she really does bring it upon herself. And from what my friends have told me when they saw her, she hasn't changed much, in fact from the moment she saw one of her old friends and my best friend, she gave her the worst evils and went up to her and said outright that she doesn't like us and just because she's back it doesn't mean she'll talk to any of us. She's made herself unpopular already, and walks around like she owns the place.

But I wont make her life a misery, I'll just keep my head down and ignore her, I guess. Thanks for the advice. Reply

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